You can't control how people react about you're attack. You can't stop people from making up narratives, can't stop people from seeing you in a certain light and you have to just accept that. What turns me off about Nancy Kerrigan is how hard she tried to separate herself from the Tonya Harding controversy and how she tried to deny they ever had a rivalry. They were the two greatest figure skaters in America at the time, one known for her grace and artistry and the other (wild card) known for shaking up the sport by bring a more athletic edge. It has taken me five years to accept how people talk about me being attacked. Sometimes I'm framed as a hero for not letting myself be a victim and that used to bother me but at this point, it makes me feel like a strong person.
I'm not suggesting that Tonya Harding is a good person or a bad person. I'm only saying that I empathize with her. Whenever I'm extremely stressed out, I think of her and everything she's been through and no matter what kind of pressure I'm under her story makes me feel like things aren't that bad for me. She's not a hero and she's not a victim and that makes for a much better story. She might be a little bit of a villain, but that's not my place to decide. My place is to sit back and take in the brilliant story of how complicated dreams are.